These books changed my life and can change yours too
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I love to read, mostly it’s been fiction. However, there are five non-fiction books that I can honestly say have changed my life.
These books have been around for a while and I was familiar with the concepts, but never took the time to actually read them for myself.
I bought the audiobook Ask and it is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires for my commutes to work a while back. I must have listened to it about 10 times before I thought to myself “I really need to buy the hard copy” because every single time I listen, I receive a new deep insight.
That book alone triggered such a powerful shift in my thinking patterns that I chose several more books — books that created room for growth, healing, and inspiration. Every book on this list has done that for me. So much so that I have been left with the feeling that there would be a lot less hurt and pain in the world if everyone read them.
If you read any of these books I’d love to hear what you think. And, if there are any books that rocked your world not listed, please comment and share below.
We’ve all heard the saying that your “vibe attracts your tribe” but this book reminds me that your vibe attracts even more than that. Negative thoughts, even though we think them to ourselves, do create what we are putting out there and people unconsciously pick up on that and react accordingly. So, when it seems negative things seem to multiply, it’s important to think of all the negatives we are thinking to set the stage.
Instead of thinking all the things we don’t want all the time, the vibe can literally change in the positive direction, when we focus on what we do want. My biggest take away from this book is realizing that you get what you think about, whether you like it or not.
Also, the concept of deliberate creation. Deliberate creation is choosing a better feeling thought. So, while it’s normal to have bad moments or days that might feel out of control, frustrating or sad we can take control of the situation by choosing one better feeling thought and then another until we move up to feeling better overall.
When I start to feel angry or down, I ask myself “What is one thing that might feel nice at this moment?” And, then I do that and I remind myself “I like this.” It can be small, such as, it would be nice to listen to my favorite song or get outdoors and go for a walk. Then as that feels nice, I chose one more thing which might be nice. I would then say it in my head “I would like a glass of wine” or “I would like to sit by a fire and watch a movie.” I have noticed it really does help, despite circumstances, to start deliberately thinking and focusing on what is nice and holding that thought as much as I can. As opposed to, dwelling and thinking about what I don’t like or all that is wrong.
This book made me realize that no matter where we are in our life story, we can decide to start a new chapter. But, in order to get into our story and become the author, we need to start living intentionally with actions that create the life we want.
All of us can live a life of significance, we just need to decide to intentionally use our every day lives to bring about positive change in the lives of others. One action can inspire another person and then another and it can be a result of just one simple act you started, creating the domino effect for great things.
One deep question the book points out is that people will summarize your life in one sentence, so you pick — what will that sentence be? When you decide what you want to be remembered for and start taking intentional action steps, you can decide the legacy you leave.
Konmari, the Japanese method of decluttering promises to magically change your life. I’ve been exploring minimalism for awhile now in an attempt to simplify my life. It’s still a struggle because it’s so easy to accumulate and hold on to things we think we “need.” It’s also hard to figure out where to start.
Traditionally for most cleaning out a room is to remove the items you don’t want. KonMari instructs you to change the focus. Declutter by category and only save what brings joy. As you reduce down, only having the items that bring joy, triggers the magical feeling of bliss. I’m still in this process but the areas I have cleaned out with this method do make me smile. If only I had started this long ago!
When I first discovered the life balance wheel concept, my life was feeling pretty out of control. I just could not figure out why. But, when I was able to break down my core life categories and rate my satisfaction in each, I could see that I was not satisfied in many areas because they were way out of balance.
Julie Renee Doering in Balance Your Life Now walks through the life categories and provides action guides to ignite happiness, fulfillment, love and self-expression.
I can honestly say this was one of the most life-altering self-awareness activities I have done. I refer back to the life balance wheel from time to time and see where I’m at and brainstorm for new action steps to fulfill any area with deficits.
I learned about Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow years ago in college. The concept that we all hold things subconsciously that we fear or repress but carry along with us like baggage. Sometimes those things can cause us self-sabotage or make us even hide gifts and talents.
Debbie Ford in The Secret of the Shadow does an amazing job at illustrating how there is power in facing your shadow and owning your whole story. In doing so, it frees us to experience our whole selves through the good and the bad. It’s a powerful read to help learn, understand, and let go of things we may not realize are self-defeating.